The Day We Get Married

As women, the day we get married our order of priority and obedience changes. We used to be obedient to Allah, subhanallana wa taala, and our parents. After marriage, we are obedient to our Allah, subhaana wa taala, and our husbands. Our good company is best rewarded with our husbands. But for our husbands, it does not change. His obedience and after Allah, azza wa jal, is to his mother, then his father, and then his wife.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: A man came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, who among people is most deserving of my good company?” He said, “Your mother.” He asked, “Then who?” He said, “Your mother.” He asked, “Then who?” He said, “Your mother.” He asked, “Then who?” He said, “Then your father.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5626; Muslim, 2548)

Sisters, rake in the rewards by encouraging your husband to fulfill his mother's rights! Encourage your husband to spend time with his mother. Encourage your husband to call her often, to visit her, take her gifts, thank her, show his love and appreciation. And when he is doing well by his mother, encourage him towards his father... but not in equal measure. You will gain rewards from your intention, from your husbands good actions, from your husband's mother's pleasure, from your husband's father's pleasure, from enjoining the good, and being a strong support to your fellow Muslims.

May Allah, the One who opens hearts, open our hearts and minds to all the chances of reward that are available to us and within our influence - ameen.